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A Deep Practice for Healing to Wholeness

Once learned, the frames and tools of Process Coaching and wholeness work can be condensed into a few quick and easy steps that can be practiced any time. As when learning any new practice, you'll probably find this shortened version of the work easier to practice when in a resourceful state. However, once the steps are practiced and learned, this process makes it much easier to work in present time with triggered emotions and physical issues.

This practice uses consciousness, the essence of mind to do something radically different than it has been conditioned to do with 'bad' feelings. Instead of following the ancient imprinted programming to get away from unwanted feelings by escaping into the mind (and its torturous thoughts about the unwanted feeling), we're now asking mind to help us stay present with and feel into uncomfortable, previously unwanted feelings.

Rather than trying to confront the conditioned mind directly, in this practice we 'go under' the old programming. We take conscious control of our own attention to focus on the feeling and feel into it, where it is in the body. This is a practical application of consciousness in the service of sentience.

Traumas have a residual shock component that often presents as numbness, 'spaciness,' wanting to sleep, etc. Depression is another example of a present-time experience of the shock associated with past emotional trauma. The shock that came to protect us from having to feel too much pain during the original trauma has become part of the imprint, and has usually prevented us from fully feeling the feeling before escaping into the mind.

The solution here is to simply feel under the shock, feel under the numbness. Say to yourself, "Now I want to feel the feeling that the shock has been protecting me from." Feel under the blankness of the shock and experience the feeling.

This practice is a good way to find and release otherwise hidden deep denial energy (asuras). The technique addresses all of the layers of the original trauma and its reenactments, including the roots at the deepest transpersonal levels.

Experience has shown that the original transpersonal traumas in the feminine essence were caused by highly concentrated denial energy attacking the Mother, and therefore the release of this denial energy is important in this practice. The Mother's original imprinting came not from denials of her by Spirit, but rather from attacks by asuras before Spirit had awakened into consciousness.

This kind of primordial denial energy can often feel more intense and mean, and more snarly that the average asuric energy. In dislodging these deep denials, it can help to vocalize the intensity of that mean and snarly energy as it leaves.

The Practice

1. Feel a 'bad' feeling (either emotional or physical).

2. Locate this feeling in your body.

3. Observe the feeling with curiosity, and begin to feel into the feeling. (As the loving, parental healer self who is observing the feeling, you are separate from it. You're not becoming the feeling or identifying as it.)

4. Avoid 'seeing' the feeling, thinking about the feeling or otherwise reacting to it. Notice how the energy of the feeling feels. Focus on the feeling sense of it, the texture of the feeling. Is it moving or still? Is it warm or cool, hard or soft, sharp or dull? Is it sticky or slick, rough or smooth? Is there pressure? What does the energy of it feel like in your body?

5. Your attitude is that you want to know more about how this feeling feels. In this way you are like Loving Spirit wanting to know the Mother by feeling all of her pain. And instead of being the pain by identifying as the part of the Mother in pain, like loving Spirit you are remaining in the position of the loving and resourceful healer, and you are feeling into the pain.

6. If mind comes into action here, if there are any thoughts or judgments, simply re-focus on the feeling, and feel under the thoughts and judgments. Continue feeling into the energy of the feeling with interest and curiosity.

7. Ask yourself, "Am I comfortable feeling this feeling just as it is, without the feeling having to change in any way?" If so, skip step 8 and continue with step 9. If another feeling (such as fear) is preventing you from being comfortable, do this practice from the beginning with that feeling first, and then come back to the original feeling.

8. Release denial energy: If you are not comfortable feeling into the feeling just as it is now, ask yourself, "What kind of denial release would help me be more comfortable being with this feeling?" Do either a judgment release or deep denial release.

9. After any judgments or deep denial in the feeling is released, feel back into the feeling and notice any changes. Now while feeling the feeling, imagine a small child you once were is feeling this feeling. It's okay to just make it up, the child is only a metaphor for the feeling.

10. When something comes to mind, ask yourself: Is the child indoors or outdoors? Is the child standing? Sitting? How old is the child?

11. Now, in your present adult body, go on the scene and be there with the child. Get down to their eye level, and say "Hello." Open your arms and heart to the child and let them know you love them, just as they are.

12. If the child would like, pick them up and hold them. Allow the child to feel your love and acceptance for them, just the way they are. It's okay to take time here and enjoy the experience.

13. When the child is feeling your love, take an observer position so you can see there are two of you there, the child and the grown-up. Now go into the position of the child. You are in the child's body.

14. You are little, and your grown-up self is loving you. Now feel what it's like to loved... just the way you are.

15. To finish, as the grown-up... look into the eyes of the child and see their beauty, innocence and greatness. And when you are ready, the adult holds the child so close you absorb them into yourself, one whole being. Rest in the love as long as you like.

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